Keep it short and sweet - The most successful messages in our experience are less than five lines long.
You can always send more messages if you want to know more about each other.
If you do not receive a message back or if you receive a negative response it’s important to keep trying.
I came up with some cautious questions for my protection in case… Complimenting her will often give you points, but only if you focus on intangible qualities like intelligence or her accomplishments.
DON’T WRITE IN CAPITALS ONLY - Bizarrely a lot of people choose to write in only capitals in their message.
Using capitals only makes it look like you’re shouting and people might think that you haven’t worked out how to remove the Caps Lock.
Flattery will get you everywhere - Everybody enjoys a compliment, but there’s a fine line between giving a friendly compliment and seeming creepy.
It’s better to compliment someone’s profile than their looks as it shows that you’ve taken the time to learn more about them and aren’t objectifying them.
If we wanted to read your profile, we'd have gone to it.
An online dating message is not the same (thank GOD) as a job application.
Keep your message lighthearted - Your message isn’t the place to write something negative as people react better to positive introductions.
However, you might be able to get away with some gentle teasing, like “I never thought I’d be contacting a [insert sports team here] supporter, but I really liked your profile.” Don’t be disheartened if you don’t get a reply - we do encourage members to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’, but not everyone is happy sending a rejection.
This shows that you’re interested in finding out more about them and aren’t a “me, me, me” kind of person.